Fine allows us to disregard our heart’s desires, our ambition, our craving for a whole life that fits us. Fine says ‘don’t mind me, it’s not important, I’m not important’. Fantastic (bit more sparky). Not that one. As we careen at breakneck speed towards the legalization of gay marriage, as people yell and stamp and scream and justify and demonize, consider this moving, quiet, patient, eloquent plea (with a follow-up) by an anonymous writer to just stop using words that freeze, reduce, diminish and thrash gays and lesbians. Still all safe, but it’s slow progress, changing years of fine-ism. FAT! The word I saw was made up. Don’t settle for fine.

"TRUCKFUMP” was lettered neatly on the back window of a white pickup truck in the parking lot of a Post Office in Tucson. This was a not-so-subtle commentary that danced close enough to the edge of profanity that no one could mistake the meaning. All rights reserved. Fine.

Fierce, strong, renewed, dynamic, awesome, peaceful, blissful? Ternay was ejected without being served, according to an account by the Fort Worth Star-Telegram.

Whether we’re feeling fantastic, awesome, brilliant or awful, depressed, anxious – we just say fine and no further conversation is required. "Just as young children cannot go to R-rated movies that feature language like that, we do not believe they should be exposed to it in a family restaurant.”. For conversations to remain civil and respectful. Ear plugs would be more appropriate.

Some apologized.

Can't I just wait and see if things get better on their own?” (Hate to break it to you: things rarely do “get better on their own”, until you address them). Some told me to F-word off. How many of you have dreaded giving feedback to someone? You didn't raise your kid to work construction.

Why we're using the F-word so much “You can’t go to a movie — or watch a television show for that matter — without hearing the constant use of the F-word,” he said.

I say “honored” because speakers at this event have included folks like Derek Sivers, Dan Pink and Seth Godin, all people I admire deeply. Was I ‘fine’? Andy Ternay arrived for Sunday breakfast at a First Watch in Richardson, Texas, on Feb. 11, with a T-shirt that said “(F-word) Trump and (F-word) you for voting for him” in block letters across the front. It could lose its punch. We want some safe public space for children to remain innocent. We live in a time when the president of the United States can’t grasp the significance of a hostile foreign power meddling in U.S. elections. Which is why I’ve come to call feedback the “F” word when working with … I’ve not yet willingly opened up the the ‘not fines’ though. by Matt Jenson on March 27, 2013. That means that he is unlikely to easily give up using his new power word, but you can rechannel his usage to a safe situation. I started trying on some different words.

Yeah, you’ve heard that little voice that says: “I don’t wanna do this. What were you thinking? On the back was an extended middle finger pointing to more profanity directed at “the racist alt-right.”. The best part was to connect with brilliant, innovative founders who were lovely, super interesting and... down-to-earth! Fine is what we say instead of being honest, instead of feeling deeply how we truly are.

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It can feel truly liberating to drop an F-bomb. Fine allows us to hide from what we truly want. On the bad days, I go with OK, not fine. There are events – like when you back out of the garage without first opening the garage door – when no other word seems to express what you are feeling. I packaged these into a quick how-to talk, which I was honored to give at the Business of Software conference in Dublin this Spring. Life has so much more depth to it than just ‘fine’. This material is under copyright protection and may not be used without written consent. If we aren’t careful, the F-word could become a victim of its own popularity. Kayla. Stop using the f-word. Timid steps into honesty but a damn lot better than the luke-warm, non-living ‘fine’. In a statement to the Star-Telegram, the restaurant said it wasn’t about politics. Researchers tied the increased use of the F-word and similar words to some red-blooded American traits, such as individualism, independence and the delight in breaking taboos. Sometimes nothing else quite captures your level of frustration, anger or downright astonishment like that four-letter word. Researchers from San Diego State University and the University of Georgia charted the rapid rise in public usage of the F-word and some of its vulgar and scatological cousins in research published last year.

Relevance. I stopped one day after I’d said it and wondered why I kept using it.

Add someone’s mother to the F- word and frequency of use soared 678 times over 1950.

Everyone does it. I was great (better but still bland). “(F-word) Trump and (F-word) you for voting for him”, Your California Privacy Rights / Privacy Policy. It’s vanilla.

I say that all the time. I truly would like to quit using such words, but it seems that I have already made it a habit, is there any way that I could stop?? This an all-purpose, special occasion word that can morph into any part of speech: noun, verb, adjective, adverb.

Researchers who charted the rapid rise in the public use of this all-purpose word suggest over-use might result in a loss of its power or “shock value.”. But it did not quite go over the line. In Texas, a man recently went hungry for boldly going over the line. It's a lot easier to redirect a child's impulse than to stop it. It’s awkwarrrrrrrd. I need to stop using the F word.

All ‘fine’. It’s meaningless. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. So how are you really? But there is a danger of overusing the F-word. How can I stop swearing and using the F word? “What the heck” just doesn’t seem to cut it. So sink in to whatever it is you are. 8 years ago. But I’ve still avoided ‘fine’ and gone with – down, anxious, flat. For a long time, over the past year or so, I’ve been trying not to use the f-word. Inspired? Everyone is bloody fine. It’s a word she has defended using time and time again since she used it against blogger Perez Hilton in January 2013. For a long time, over the past year or so, I’ve been trying not to use the f-word. Or was I something else? And if I’m something else, why the hell don’t I say that? 2. Not that one. If you’re like most, you find it nearly as uncomfortable to give feedback as it is to receive it. But let’s face it, folks, those hoping to keep bad words from reaching young ears need to do more than avoid R-rated movies. What are you feeling?

Reach Linda Valdez at linda.valdez@arizonarepublic.com. Excellent. Are you great? Marvellous, cheerful, loved, spectacular, grateful, tickled-pink? When my adult daughter was little, I used to tell people in public places to watch their language in her presence. Why that hurts you. You will also have to begin using these words around the house in a fun way. So I get it. They used books as a measure and found the use of the F-word was 168 times more frequent in 2008 than in 1950. What a loss. by Haley Devon September 10, 2017 September 14, 2017 Leave a Comment on I need to stop using the F word. Stop using the f word August 21st, 2016. Those admissions I still save for my nearest and dearest.

Essay / Culture Stop Using the F-Word. I’m talking about the other f-word – fine. Fine. Let him experiment. What would happen if I actually said a response that meant something?

I started, when asked how I was, pausing to check in and ask myself the question before ‘fining’ my joy away. Your email address will not be published. Fine keeps us stuck in the rut, in the same holding pattern as everyone else. We use cookies to ensure that we give you the best experience on our website. Add Sunday breakfast and a trip to the Post Office to that list.

Watch my talk on “The Art of Giving Feedback” and let me know one takeaway that you’re ready to try out. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with it. Answer Save. In a culture where the F-word is as common as dirt, the only way to be provocative would be to buy a dictionary and learn to express one’s self without profanity. How many of you have dreaded giving feedback to someone?

9 Answers. The researchers quoted former Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia’s 2013 lament on the “coarseness of manners” in modern America. Which is why I’ve come to call feedback the “F” word when working with my clients. It was my default response to all the common questions – how are you, how are you going, how’s things, how’s life? A bored mother is not a happy one: why we need…, How to have a successful life even if you feel like…. The word on the truck made me wonder: Are we overusing America’s favorite profanity?

The Insightful Executive is based in Silicon Valley and serves clients from around the world. Required fields are marked *. Fine robs us of passion, depth, feeling, ferocity. So, I’ve come up with my own list of tips for how to do give feedback gracefully, where it actually BUILDS UP relationships, mutual respect and trust. Share with me in the comments how you are, truly.

Crappy?

Most likely I always will. So that’s a little more honest even though not fully open. I’m talking about the other f-word – fine. This is so negative! People have a serious problem with calling themselves fat, me being one of them.

There are also times – like these – that call for extraordinary words. “You can’t go to a movie — or watch a television show for that matter — without hearing the constant use of the F-word,” he said. Overwhelmed? Personally I need to stop calling myself fat or any names for that matter. Fine. Awesome.

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Let’s stop using the F-word at work and start using the E-word. If you’re like most, you find it nearly as uncomfortable to give feedback as it is to receive it. Depressed, anxious, bored, numb, feverish, dull, disillusioned? © 2020 Sylvana Rochet. It’s an event I’ll likely attend again. I say that all the time. Most likely I always will. Because fine is insipid.