Just leave the hate at the door. Love the Wednesday motto too! By Nina Bahadur. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) is an autoimmune disease that impacts approximately 1 in 10 women. Even though I am eating the healthiest I have ever eaten in my whole life, and constantly trying to nurture my body, it seems to want to hold onto everything. . Not any more or any less than if we change our hair or our boobs or have babies that rearrange our fleshy bits. Thin or curvy. My brain felt like it was on fire, like there were tiny bugs scrambling around on its surface.

We need to stop it and the whole society needs to stop it. Thank you for your courage! We all are, sometimes we just don’t see the forest for the trees. | Truthbutter, Link Love (2015-09-19) | Becky's Kaleidoscope. I can honestly tell you from reading your blog to listening to your podcasts that you are so much more than your “human suit”. "I lost ___ pounds by doing this, you should try it!". Yes, I feel like the rest of you….. I hope it helps so very many people!

It does NOT make me easy, and it does not mean I'll have sex with just anyone the first time I meet them. I have Lyme Disease and severe allergy issues, and it has been a nightmare fighting through all of it. I so feel this right now.

6. The last few years I have been fighting that inner battle by realizing that I don’t want to pass this on to my daughter. Own it! What a GREAT article. We know now we are not alone. Now that bitch is knocked down a peg, she’s not the loudest one. I didn’t realize it at the time, but those so-called helpful comments were actually forms of fat shaming. "Have you lost weight? I shouldn’t care. Thanks. It’s cruel, irrational and it hurts. i hope someday we get to meet so i get to experience one of your great hugs and loud laugh, and true beauty. There is no reason to feel guilty about food and nourishing your body. I say "your" symptoms specifically because everyone's symptoms are different. I’m in the midst of my latest round of mystery diagnosis, and puffed up from a round of steroids. I soooo feel you. I recently had to write a spoken word poem for my creative writing class about a topic that I am really passionate about and I chose to write about body shaming. It’s something I have been conditioned to think. On March 13, 26-year-old Breonna Taylor was fatally shot in her apartment by police who were executing a "no-knock" warrant. Body shaming is way too common in our society, something I also struggle with, and it doesn’t make any sense. The Smile Project is a nonprofit organization devoted to spreading happiness, founded by Elizabeth Buechele. I love these pictures too! Big hugs and kisses your way!! My dear you are absolutely gorgeous and brave! Being told that I should take smaller portions of food, or having people assume that I was incapable of doing certain things because of my weight was not only rude, but it also took a huge toll on my self-esteem. “Ewww, I feel so fat.” I hear this phrase a lot. Typically, people are body shamed when they appear overweight or underweight or don’t fit society’s view of “thin and beautiful”. Copyright 2014 | All Rights Reserved | Powered by, Made this frittata out of fridge garbage in order, GRIEVING IN SLOW MOTION//Six years ago I got a pho, ♥️ e i g h t y e a r s + f o r e v e r t o, S a t u r d a y V i b e s Husband is cooking. Once we remove that judgement on ourselves and others we set ourselves free. It’s easy for others to criticize someone else when they haven’t lived through what the other person has. Why should I be my own worst enemy? I’ve carefully curated my social media existence as to not show my whole body as it is right now. Easy Orange & Ginger Beer Cranberry Sauce, Grain-Free Apple, Sage + Sausage Stuffing, Thanksgiving Meatballs with Easy Pan Gravy. Just yesterday I went to the beach and stayed covered up wearing a long skirt. It’s a terrible shame when you intentionally miss out or avoid a social situation (both online and in real life) because the voice of being disgusted with yourself wins over hanging out with your friends. Madison Franz, Florida Gulf Coast University4. I’ve had it bookmarked, along with other posts I’m in need of catching up on, and it took being sick and stuck at home to read this. After battling several chronic ailments in my 20s, I began taking control of my own health in my 30s. I understood that some people actually meant well when they kept encouraging me to shed a few pounds, but deep down, those pieces of advice actually stung. Bowled over by every sentence. I struggle everyday with that critical unforgiving mean girl as well; if all of us could just stop doing it what an amazing power we could be. Instead, I’ve let that voice tell me if I was thinner, people would like me more and I would be more successful. 25 Whole30 Recipes to Help You Thrive (Not Just Survive)! I found out that I had Hashimoto’s disease my senior year of college, after being on a crap ton of anti-depressants and gaining a horrendous amount of weight. My most favorite line: “It’s saying I’m perfectly imperfect, a work in progress, and a girl who wants to feel like her soul outweighs the flesh on her thighs.” That so resonates with me. And plus, you will only come off as an attention seeker who’s looking for sympathy and extra compliments. Tears of joy for your triumph and tears of sadness because I’ve heard that same voice in my head so many times before. (AND HE WORKS OUT!!) xoxoxo. I am trying to hear it, and you just helped me. Gina, I am reading this post at just the right time. Most women face their biggest insecurities when trying on clothes. Thank you for sharing your story, for being brave, for being vulnerable.

I am also reading this at work…with pizza. During that time, I rarely ever felt like I was beautiful. Funny, that I can be so kind and understanding to friends and family, but so harsh on myself about my weight gain from Hashimotos…thank you fof the right words at the right time.

Thank you! Please enter the valid Body shaming and fat shaming is the same as bullying, whether it be in person, or online. Thank you for sharing. DANG GIRL. Tell us in the comments below! You are gorgeous, inside and out….You always have been and always will be…xoxoxo. And, in the words of Gretchen Weiners, I’d like to officially tell that voice, “YOU CAN’T SIT WITH US”. Holding hands and watching sunsets. I’ve had to be more patient with myself than ever in my life. I just kept thinking this isn’t where I want my health to be. did), and it’s hard to erase. Big, big love. So if you just had … A pledge to love myself through thick and thin, with no weighty emphasis on either state of being. Honestly, if someone spoke to a friend of mine that way, they might get punched.” Thank you for being so easy to relate to and for speaking up on a topic that I’m sure is not discussed enough. It made me cry. Wow!!! People that are fat are trying to reclaim the word fat and others like it to be a good thing, so when people that are not overweight use the word it is like taking that away from them. But it wasn’t until recently that I realized how harmful and offensive this actually sounds. What writing! Your words left me in tears. I’m still loved.

But the good news is, plus-sized fashion bloggers are starting to prove that they can break fashion rules and still look fabulous. Our culture loves the ideology of a perfect body, whether it be in print, movies, … The shape of your body does not determine if you are a woman or not. I don’t need you to talk about how I was thin or fit or curvy or how I once fit into a pair of size two denim. I don’t know how to get rid of her!! I spent the first 16 years of my life as a plus-sized girl.

Then they see a picture of you and they’re all, “you’re not my type” Yeah… that means you want someone thin. i appreciate your bravery. You are awesome and the world is full of awesome people who love and appreciate you! So celebrating this courageous share and all the people you inspire on a daily basis with your vulnerability and truth. “Stop saying you’re fat, you’re beautiful.”. That same bitch lives in my head. This phrase can work as a trigger to some people because hearing the numbers makes it real and comparable. So many of us believe that we don’t body […]. To say he’s my rock is the least I could say. Keep taking care of yourself and know that you’re awesome no matter what shape your human suit takes. I just wanted to tell you all of the above and you are obviously not alone. And your picture is lovely, sexy, cute, and wonderful. Take a look at these 11 phrases you probably didn’t realize are fat shaming: I hear this phrase a lot. I am rounding out my 30’s this year, and often think, will I ever love Me? magazine. Want to get more of my recipes and posts delivered right to your inbox? I sure as hell didn’t put it there (fashion magazines, television, etc. You’re an inspiration! Which of these phrases surprised you the most? Diet and exercise it's that easy, right? I too suffer from a disease that affected my life my entire life, it can push us over the edge of sanity sometimes but it is amazing when we finally get an answer to what it is. Big, small, muscular, busty, flat, short, tall, thigh gap, no thigh gap. It’s new and it’s kinda terrifying. There were so many different symptoms it made me feel like I was going crazy. Love you, girl! Again, skinny shaming does exist and it can be just as hurtful. I want to thank you, truly thank you, from the bottom of my heart for writing this post. I too have meshed my self esteem with my body image. This is just beyond rude. I wish you could see yourself the way we see you.

He never judges me or says anything bad about how I look or when I have gained a few lbs. I’ve had my struggles with anxiety since I was 6; though my latest round of Paxil helped me through a difficult time in 2014 and early 2015, that 20 pound anti-depressant weight gain sure made me feel horrible on a different level. We can't settle for this decision or a system that is fundamentally broken and unequal. It all started on a random day in the fall of her senior year. But I’m still my awesome self. I think you are beautiful to look at, and you write like you are part of my own experience in this life. A time where you're nice to yourself and put your own self-care before anything else.