We cannot avoid dealing with people who have Narcissistic issues, so we may as well learn workable and realistic strategies. He insists I listen to his impeccable advice and will not quit handing it out!

He tells me stories of men with ugly wives(his words) and how they say things to him about how lucky he is his wife didn’t get fat etc. Learn to be calm for your own well being.

Move on.

If possible, remember a specific instance when they displayed this good quality or talent and tell them about how great they were in as much detail as possible.

Was married 14.5 years to him.

Run away! You know so much about that topic, and have done so well, would you mind giving me your opinion?”.

Don’t say: “You can’t treat me this way. My beautiful son loves him and thankfully our child has the taken after me in his physical attributes (or his dad would probably never talk to him) and as it turns out is an exceptional athlete and student. If this asshat 'husband' of yours raises his arm to harm you again, kick him in the nuts, or punch him in the throat or eyes. Thx so much!

Speak softly, don’t threaten or challenge. It will always be an unhealthy and unbalanced relationship, until that narcissist deals with the problem. I fully understand your story.

Too painful.

If he had any remorse.

I don't know what my point is, only that I wish I was in a situation where I could cut off the narcissist completely without losing my relationship with other family members in the process.

Not sure what to do? Life is too long to have to put up with a rotten fk who wants to see you dead or miserable because they are too messed up to fix themselves.

After logging in you can close it and return to this page. Walk away. Do you see yourself in these traits? It is once again, up to the "empathetic" person to smooth over how the Narc is feeling.

Stole thousands in forged checks from my sweet mother over a period of 3 years. It’s easier than you think to get caught in this trap.


Wondering my purpose and what my future holds. - makes my stomach turn!) I’m willing to bet that you are not a narcissist.
Hurts to know that and feel sorry for his next girl. (Was for replying to Susan Also! Someone old enough maybe in a similar situation possibly would understand you could be a part-time friend or whatever sometimes, hey your husband seems to not mind having other “female friends” right? I still love this man very much, as he has many good qualities….and, I just love him because he is one of a kind, like we all are. For 15 years I have been on the end of the rages. That’s disgusting.

This makes them fragile and easily broken down when confronted. I’m a psychotherapist, specializing in working with Narcissists. It is not. They launch her through a gauntlet of meds, dosage adjustments and med changes. Yeah, me too! Then they tell her it is all my parents fault.

No matter how much he blames you, remember WHY he rages—it is about him and his perceptions. Depending on the situation and relationship, you may be stalked, harassed, abused or even attacked until they feel you’ve suffered enough for hurting them.

After being with this man more than 34 years total, it’s hard to stop loving a person, even though I don’t really trust him with my feelings or emotions. It is heartbreaking, they understand she is in pain, they understand she needs love and support, and will continue to take her unwarranted abuse. Spot on, Thank you!

Article interesting and needed for those of us that battle one Narcissist every day! The following evening, it all started again. This man is not good for you and I promise that he will never change.

I am half way out the door as I wait for the house to sell. And I need you to suffer because I hate having to rely on you for this. So i was going to therapy that i now need again..then we went to couples counseling. I wish I could get across to others just how important this is.

If they escalate to where it looks like they may become physically- violent- get out.

Congratulations for making the change you needed for an improved life. The only good thing at this point is that the FOG has lifted and now have a reason why my life has bee so out of wack. If you react in any way to their rage, it will continue to escalate. P**n and sex addiction, cheated repeatedly … Raged on me and became absive. I’m making slow progress and if it wasn’t for God i wouldnt be alive today.

I want to go back with him most everyday, but I know things will be the same, and I’m not sure if I can handle the rages and silent treatment anymore.

You deserve a happy life. Don’t try to engage them verbally. If you do so, you are pushing aside the fact that likely the narcissist is: gas lighting you, manipulating you, attacking you, playing the victim role, blaming you for something possibly imagined, and/or neglecting to take any responsibility for themselves. He basically terrorises our mother now. The login page will open in a new tab. Our relationship quickly Nehan to crumble once I started to become aware of all of his lies. His behavior became worse. But it’s actually helped me to have a better relationship with her or whatever form of relationship you can have with an emotionally immature and abusive person. There are several differences between anger and narcissistic rage. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. Do say: “So sorry. Having a patient who must willingly come to you is simply mental masturbation for a narcissist. Can’t both men and woman be narcissist?

If two women have a problem outside their job, one may try to jeopardize the other’s employment by using lies.

They don’t, really. My in laws are a narcissistic family always sticking up for one another and can do no wrong. So the only thing to remember with stranger rage is that you can step away and forget it.

So I did.

Sometimes they claim they said something which they did not actually say, blaming the victim for not listening.

True narcissism is a malignant process and destroys everyone involved. No. All the people he puffs himself around would be shocked to see his real side ironically the only person who he’s done the same to is his sister who was raised in the same house as him and she stands up to him and he rages at her so she refuses to speak to him.

A narcissist hates themselves, blames themselves, which undoubtedly causes all of the projection that gets thrown maliciously back at the victim. The rages never stopped during this time. I know he hurts me pretty bad, but I still worry about him and would love to see him happy with himself and other people. Tragic really, as they truly have some wonderful traits about them. Narcissists love to give advice. He raged, he D and D’d me even thru all the cancer sickness it’s a wonder I even recovered physically but I did. They do not have the ability of introspection as it hurts too much and they suffer the pain that they did as a child. totally agree. I am a narcissist raised by a narcissist.

Everything is always about the narcissist.

My husband (soon to be ex) is a classic malignant narcissist. You may experience this rage in the workplace, with friends, and in relationships. I don’t need to reiterate any of the above. He would ignore me to begin with, always at a social event, no interaction with me, just sneering. Never have I had a face to face apology.

I choose to no longer engage them when they start a fight! No conversation at all. Her children are confused and are now getting into trouble at school etc.

I also want to experience unconditional love from a partner. He ignores anything emotional and says it was apparent we couldnt get along and its best for the 3 of us. Here’s how to respond to the narcissistic rage of this kind: Try to make your time together as fulfilling as possible. If he is emotionally colourblind he might actually be something else. No communication afterwards, first time I got a lame text apology but that was a one off. The narcissist does not know how to say ‘I’m sorry’ and mean it. You deserve to be free, happy and healthy. I took it from my savings account without conferring with him but I knew what he would say. It difficult to admit. I love how you take all your time for me, not for yourself.

Narcissists can, and often do, contradict themselves in the same breath. It’s absolutely mindblowing. Men are more stronger than women and women are more nurturing.

If you want to smooth things over, do not expect to do so by proving that the Narcissist is wrong. © Learning Mind 2012-2020 | All Rights Reserved |, What Is Narcissistic Rage, How to Recognize It and Deal with It. I was always wrong. They will slowly control every aspect of your life.

Help me God and all the people out there hurt and the ones hurting others. Narcissists almost never get help because they believe that they are so wonderful that they are perfect and they don’t need help.

Narcissistic rage is one of the classic behaviors of the narcissist.

Here’s how to respond to the narcissistic rage of this kind: Narcissistic rage is also seen in the workplace.

What is even more scary, is I am questing my "hole family" and the meaning of my life. By the way………..he is a diagnosed NPD and I was told this 2 years into our relationship and I THOUGHT if I showed him I was trustworthy, how my love would help him, how this or that would do this or that…..IT WON’T……believe me please, those of you who are still with the Narcissist!

We moved to another country two years ago, and I’m now even more isolated from my family (who isn’t totally supportive, but they’re all I got).

Please, please reclaim your life – you’re not an object or commodity, you’re a wonderful, beautiful woman and a mother who deserves love and not abuse. I spent nearlyy 4 more years with the emotional terrorist. The 2 Faces of Narcissism: Can You Recognize Them? I want my relationship to work, and so much of that is learning to understand my partner's mind so that my efforts are more effective.

She has at times left me feeling worthless and weak. He is a recovering cancer patient, so there’s that, too.

Good Job and keep up the good works! It was about a criminal with narcistic rage.

I had forgotten that he has no empathy or true feelings-only for himself. Reading this article was mentally exhausting. It’s definitely not easy to realize your mother has NPD at age 24. He cools down. I recently read Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad and Surprising Good About Feeling Special. I realize that my ending up with this man is due to being taught my feelings and needs were irrelevant by my parents who both had NPD in varying degrees. They are also not very logical and rely on repetition, drama or sheer will to wear you down like a child would. The result is that our child rebels and fights against him - even lashing out at times - think even a child can see through the fake concern and has little respect for his daddy. Some of this I had sort of figured out by trial and error, but not without a lot of resulting pain on both sides.

It’s important to pick your battles with a narcissist (not usually during a rage) and to wait for a time where there is a better chance that the narcissist will listen to you, rather than you responding impulsively during one of their rages.

Don’t respond to narcissistic rage. I challenged this final one by mail weeks after.

I am or have suffered all these stated symptoms.

I will not give them any more opportunity to mentally, emotionally or verbally abuse me!

Firmly state your boundaries and then leave the room, get out of the car, or walk away if at all possible.

Embarrassed, and if im being really honest, cheated.