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Be sure to keep the details you share reasonable. Please consider making a contribution to wikiHow today. According to both Lee and Rudolph, insecurity can lead to one partner checking in on the other one too often. Staying busy helps keep your mind off missing him, plus makes you a better, happier GF in the long run. According to a 2013 study from the Journal of Communication, approximately three million Americans live apart from their spouse at some point during their marriage, and 75% of college students have been in a long distance relationship at one time or another.

Create a secret photo album where you can safely store your partner’s saucy selfies. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want the other person to see on social media, advise Lee and Rudolph.

Maybe you can decide that every night you’re together, you’ll try new restaurants instead of going to the same places,” says Gandhi. And I’m not alone. Or, you might commit to talking to one another each night before you go to bed. Gottlieb also advises that it’s important to share details with your partner instead of just generalizations. This will give you something to look forward to. Be forewarned, social media can be a great way to express your affection for your long-distance love. Gandhi also suggests scheduling “good night video calls” when you’re both your PJs in order to create a sense of going to bed together.

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Doing this can manifest into dependency and/or depression because no matter how often you talk you still can’t be there physically.

For instance, maybe you two send silly pictures every morning when you wake. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 169,972 times. Does he or she seem to make you a priority in life? “Plan your next weekend together. You can send flirty pictures of yourself blowing kisses in sexy poses or send a teasing message telling your date how you’ve been thinking about him or her all day.

We never even lived together until we got married. Last Updated: February 28, 2020 Research has even shown that long distance couples tend to have the same or more satisfaction in their relationships than couples who are geographically close, and higher levels of dedication to their relationships and less feelings of being trapped. “Also, because people in long-distance relationships rely more heavily on technology to stay connected, in some ways tech allows them to communicate verbally even more than couples who see each other [often], but sit in the same room not interacting at all.”.

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I like having the time to miss him, to remember why I wanted to be with him in the first place. You can play a questions game in which you both answer silly questions about yourselves.
If he got a promotion, order a bottle of champagne and then toast together over Skype. I think this is shown by how your partner treats you.

Do whatever you two would normally do on a date night over the call. Be open about your goals in life and for the relationship. This will likely ruin the excitement of your long-distance relationship. This doesn't have to take away from the excitement.

Tasha Rube is a Licensed Social Worker based in Kansas City, Kansas. It's smart to call a few days beforehand—that way you give him a heads-up, while still maintaining the excitement factor.

It needs to be at a level agreeable to both parties.”. Make it a ritual to talk about the fun things you’ll do together.

But as a general rule, try to see one another often enough so the relationship feels real, but not so much that it become stressful. That said, there are definitely ways to make them more manageable, even, dare we say, fun! That's okay. Promise. Approved.

We’re not even gonna try to candy-coat it, because if you’ve been there, and you know: LDRs suck. You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. It’s important to know that you’re truly committed to a person before wasting precious time. This article was co-authored by Tasha Rube, LMSW. After surviving four years apart try your best to end the distance after college. Consider what your date really likes and send a little something that says “I’m thinking of you.”.

Last-minute visits can be fun, just make sure you know his schedule so that your dropping by won't interfere with his plans. Sexting, Skype, steamy calls and even sexy snail mail are all tools that can keep your long-distance relationship hot. This can result in excessive calls and texts being sent for the wrong reasons, and can lead to unnecessary tension. For example, don’t just say, “I went to this dinner and had a great time.” Instead, really delve into the details.

You can also send flirty texts or pictures to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them. One suggestion might include ordering takeout meals or cooking a meal and then eating at the same time by candlelight. Even though it's tempting to spend 24/7 holed up between the sheets, incorporating him into your regular routine helps your relationship feel more normal. Gandhi also recommends doing online quizzes or games together, and discussing the results to spark new and interesting conversations.
“The constructive reason couples communicate is to provide their partners with a sense of their lives and what’s important to them. I know how to make it fun and exciting for both of us.

I've gone through the process and it, "Wow! There are 10 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. We never get to do anything together." During this time, eat the same meal or play a game or even watch a movie together. Please consider making a contribution to wikiHow today. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Missouri in 2014. We may earn commission from links on this page, but we only recommend products we love. The time apart, the distance, makes our relationship better. Discuss how many kids you each want (if any) and your dream careers. This is one major challenge facing those in long-distance relationships—quality time is limited to phone calls or texts. Even though you’re far apart, you can still plan virtual dates over Skype or Google Hangouts. If you are in a long-distance relationship, don’t for a minute think the flame has to fizzle out because you aren’t seeing your partner frequently. That’s another reason that Gandhi says going long distance in college can be hard.